The hotwife date night playlist

 I’ve considered sharing some music here for ages but I always overthink it so please excuse the ‘chaos’ that is this playlist. Over the years that I’ve been doing this hotwife thing I’ve created a bunch of little traditions, routines, rituals, whatever...

Ivan and the terrible horrible, no good, very bad date

Gonna try to keep this short and to the point but we all know I’m not very good at that. So many moons ago I was deep in the fun and adventure of the hotwife lifestyle. I was meeting one great guy after the next and really thinking I had this thing figured...

The number one complaint amongst hotwives

The number one complaint amongst hotwives. I’ve been enjoying this lifestyle for about 5 years now (little longer maybe) and in that time I’ve been fortunate enough to get to know many hotwives and learn about their successes, failures, joys and...

What I’m looking for start to finish

What I want...I thinkEverything from the initial message to what do do after we meet up, it's all here.  Here’s the general flow of how I choose a guy and what I’d like and what I don’t want to deal with. Let’s just call it another well intentioned rant...

A collection of hotwife captions

Here's a few of my favorite hotwife captions, memes, gifs and infographics that I think you'll appreciate and/or find helpful.  [gallery type="rectangular" size="medium" link="file"...

What I find sexy

If I find it sexy you'll find it here.  I'm often asked what I'm into or what kinds of things turn me on and it's hard to articulate at times but it's easy to give you a visual peek into what I find downright steamy and sexy. Here's a little collection of the images...

May I have 6 minutes of your time please

Before you watch this clip you'll have to sit and hear me out. You're about to check out a clip from Unfaithful. If you've seen it you're aware that is it not at all a hotwife situation and that everything ends terribly for everyone and if you haven't, omg go and...

Hotwife Date Night: milf & cookies edition

The dichotomy of housewife/hotwife has intrigued me from day one and I finally had a little moment where worlds collided. If you know me, you know that some of my favorite things are baking and fucking, so you can imagine I was tickled to be able to...
The hotwife date night playlist

The hotwife date night playlist

 I’ve considered sharing some music here for ages but I always overthink it so please excuse the ‘chaos’ that is this playlist. Over the years that I’ve been doing this hotwife thing I’ve created a bunch of little traditions, routines, rituals, whatever...

read more
Ivan and the terrible horrible, no good, very bad date

Ivan and the terrible horrible, no good, very bad date

Gonna try to keep this short and to the point but we all know I’m not very good at that. So many moons ago I was deep in the fun and adventure of the hotwife lifestyle. I was meeting one great guy after the next and really thinking I had this thing figured...

read more
The number one complaint amongst hotwives

The number one complaint amongst hotwives

The number one complaint amongst hotwives. I’ve been enjoying this lifestyle for about 5 years now (little longer maybe) and in that time I’ve been fortunate enough to get to know many hotwives and learn about their successes, failures, joys and...

read more
What I’m looking for start to finish

What I’m looking for start to finish

What I want...I thinkEverything from the initial message to what do do after we meet up, it's all here.  Here’s the general flow of how I choose a guy and what I’d like and what I don’t want to deal with. Let’s just call it another well intentioned rant...

read more
A collection of hotwife captions

A collection of hotwife captions

Here's a few of my favorite hotwife captions, memes, gifs and infographics that I think you'll appreciate and/or find helpful.  [gallery type="rectangular" size="medium" link="file"...

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What I find sexy

What I find sexy

If I find it sexy you'll find it here.  I'm often asked what I'm into or what kinds of things turn me on and it's hard to articulate at times but it's easy to give you a visual peek into what I find downright steamy and sexy. Here's a little collection of the images...

read more
May I have 6 minutes of your time please

May I have 6 minutes of your time please

Before you watch this clip you'll have to sit and hear me out. You're about to check out a clip from Unfaithful. If you've seen it you're aware that is it not at all a hotwife situation and that everything ends terribly for everyone and if you haven't, omg go and...

read more
Hotwife Date Night: milf & cookies edition

Hotwife Date Night: milf & cookies edition

The dichotomy of housewife/hotwife has intrigued me from day one and I finally had a little moment where worlds collided. If you know me, you know that some of my favorite things are baking and fucking, so you can imagine I was tickled to be able to...

read more
Hotwife Seduction: A well intentioned rant

Hotwife Seduction: A well intentioned rant

  So I posted recently looking for a summer fling (that's going swimmingly btw but that's neither here nor there). In chatting with so many new guys I been asked "So, what are you into" or some variation a million times this week. I know it's a perfectly legit...

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Hotwife FAQ

Hotwife FAQ

You have questions...I have answers! I get a lot of messages and a lot of questions, Here’s the most common and frequently asked. We came to hotwifing via swinging…well we weren’t actually swinging but we were talking about it as something that might be fun to try…one...

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The best wife centric subreddits to check out

The best wife centric subreddits to check out

r/HotWifeLifestyle Everything Hotwife!! /r/hotwiferequests Post location and what you're looking for /r/dirtykikpals Find men, women and couples to sext with /r/dirtyr4r Find fellow kinky redditors to meet IRL /r/BDSMpersonals If you're looking for a D/s twist to your...

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The Dirty Dozen Questionnaire

The Dirty Dozen Questionnaire

Here's a quick questionnaire for my fellow hotwives. It's all in good fun so don't fuss over having a perfect answer, just be honest. It's anonymous and mostly to indulge my own curiosities about what you ladies are up to behind closed doors....

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My Hotwife Interview

My Hotwife Interview

I was recently asked by The Cuckold consultant to partake in an interview with him about my hotwife lifestyle. I've been waiting to share it here and now that it's live on his site I'd love for you all to check it out. I was happy to share details of what this...

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A visual reminder of why I love being a hotwife

A visual reminder of why I love being a hotwife

Taken the morning after a very fun night with a fwb in NYC. I was lucky enough to have a room to myself and a lot of time on my hands. Naturally I invited a friend to join me and we made the most of the night. When I woke up the next day I remembered that it's little...

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I’m excited to share with you a new xxx hotwife site

I’m excited to share with you a new xxx hotwife site

I don't often recommend specific websites but I both personally enjoy new sensations hotwife titles and I've heard from so many blog visitors that they enjoy them as well. When they told me that hotwifexxx.com was around the corner I couldn't wait to check it out and...

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Another relatable song

Another relatable song

As a hotwife you'll find lots of men talk a big ol' game but when it comes down to it they flake, ghost, or fade; this song reminded me of them.  https://open.spotify.com/track/4ZJPwET9Jrgpkqi4Vo3Yg8

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Feel like something sweet?

Feel like something sweet?

Something very different to drool over but hopefully just as satisfying. Some sweet treats from my kitchen to your screen. [gallery type="rectangular" size="large"...

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Something different to drool over

Something different to drool over

You ask. I provide. In this case there's something very different to drool over but hopefully just as satisfying. I know it's not the typical (or particularly sexy) hotwife post but I'm into sharing all kinds of things so on here, including food porn. I've been...

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Hotwife Music

Hotwife Music

  There’s a serious lack of hotwife media out there, don’t you agree? So let’s do something about that...kind of. Since I’m always on the lookout for music that speaks to my ‘hotwife mind’ I’d like to collaborate and come up with a playlist befitting those in the...

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New Year, Same Guy.

New Year, Same Guy.

Midas got back in touch just before closing out 2016. While I'm always a fan of repeats Midas is especially fun because we've met up so many times that I'm comfortable hanging out and having a great time with him. Also he can cum in me so there's that.  So plans have...

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A series of unfortunate texts

A series of unfortunate texts

The vast majority of the conversations I have are positive but every now and then something like this happens. It's an unfortunate reminder that there's a lot of misconceptions about this hotwife fantasy, about me and about how most couples navigate this kink. I...

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Hotwife Terminology

Hotwife Terminology

Generally speaking, I'm not one for labels (or set standards) when it comes to fantasy and kink. In the case of the hotwife lifestyle and enjoying a non monogamous lifestyle there's so many labels, acronyms, etc that I thought it might be helpful to put together a...

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Cheater Cheater Pumpkin Eater

Cheater Cheater Pumpkin Eater

It would be impossible for me to be unbiased but for this post I’m going to do my best to present the facts as impartially as possible. After a recent meetup with a somewhat frequent fwb our thinking is a little cloudy and we figured sharing here might help us sort...

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Hotwife Copycat

Hotwife Copycat

I’m not a fan of people copying me, in any aspect of my life. It always has and always will deeply irritate me. So imagine how fun it’s been to get messages and emails from people saying that they want advice, tips, info on how to make a site like mine, a blog like...

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Forever a nervous hotwife

Forever a nervous hotwife

I still get nervous. I am asked all the time by wives that worry about those hotwife butterflies and when they can expect them to subside. Sorry, ladies but mine have yet to do so. To be honest I’m nervous from the time we figure out a time and place until 15 minutes...

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The hotwife guide to finding partners

The hotwife guide to finding partners

In an effort to offer some practical advice I thought I’d try my hand at compiling some info that might come in handy when you’re brand new to this fantasy. When you first start figuring out how to make this fantasy a reality a (very) large part of the equation is who...

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Practical Advice for editing your hotwife photos and videos

Practical Advice for editing your hotwife photos and videos

I am asked quite often what I use to blur video/pics that I’ve posted and I know it’s taken me awhile to get around to writing it all out but, here it is.   So if you’re a hotwife (or hotwife couple) you may have some inclination to share your adventures online....

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Give an inch…they take a mile

Give an inch…they take a mile

  I’m a little tired of everyone pushing the envelope. I am not a fan of people who I feel like are the type that you give an inch and they take a mile; there seems to be an abundance of these types out there (especially on tinder). Like I’m 100% down for some...

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A Crazy Awkward Date Night

A Crazy Awkward Date Night

The first meeting with The Ranger is just so different that I had to share. Obviously I’m a fan of this hotwife thing and there’s plenty of sexy and thrilling aspects and I try to share those often but what I’ve come to love are the random and often truly awkward...

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Pavlov’s Hotwife

Pavlov’s Hotwife

The guys I meet usually pick up the tab for room if we're meeting at a hotel so I always offer to pick up drinks or anything else we may want or need for the night. I'm also usually running late so I tend to run into the same place, grab the same bottle of wine and...

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Auto-correct Fails

Auto-correct Fails

'Ducking' is so 2014! My phone 'corrects' repeats to rapists. It also 'corrects' kiss to kill...No biggie...until I'm texting someone about how I really prefer repeats in regards to meeting guys or how much I can't wait to 'kiss' them. It makes for some awkward moments.

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You know you’re a hotwife when…

You know you’re a hotwife when…

I’ve had a few moments when I’ve thought “OK, I’m definitely all in on this hotwife thing”...so after the umptenth time I said it we started keeping a running list of the silly things that make us think “Yup, hotwifing has infiltrated our lives”. So I made a silly...

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Husbands…You’re asking for a lot…

Husbands…You’re asking for a lot…

Um...hotwife husbands….let’s not forget that by asking us ladies to live out this fantasy your kind of asking a lot of us. I know it can be rough for you guys to come around to this fantasy too and there’s a lot of trial and error on everyone’s part but at the end of...

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A Story From His POV

A Story From His POV

A few days ago I posted about wanting to meet a redditor so that I could surprise my husband with a post here and he'd finally get a glimpse into the pov of my date that he's been wanting since we started this hotwife fun...well to my surprise and delight the amazing...

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PSA/Rant for the guys

PSA/Rant for the guys

  Don’t Over promise! Please just stop. It’s not doing you any favors and it’s quite disappointing to us wives & couples.   I’m sure your 13” cock is flawless and can do amazing things. I’m sure you’re the heaviest cummer this side of the Mississippi and of...

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Getting Closer to Making it a Reality

Getting Closer to Making it a Reality

I thought this might help those of you who are looking for advice about starting out in making this hot wife fantasy a reality. I don't have a sure fire way to make your wife go running to fuck the milkman but I do know what worked for us. After a lot of communication...

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Our Online Dating Profile

Our Online Dating Profile

I've noticed a lot of posts from folks new to this kink who want to find single guys/bulls...we've had incredible luck online and thought we'd share our profile since setting one up is pretty much the first step if you looking online for guys. We spell out what we...

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Crushes? NRE? Just curious about a few things

Crushes? NRE? Just curious about a few things

Besides the standard celeb crush what’s the take having a crush within the hotwife context? We've been talking about it a lot and the conversation is basically trying to figure out if every guy I chat with/meet is a crush b/c I’m initially interested and attracted to...

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The shoe is on the other foot now

The shoe is on the other foot now

Oh OK guys; I think I get this hotwife thing now. Well I understand it a little bit clearer from the ‘husband's’ point of view…and I gotta say I think I like it. My husband has been chatting on kik with a lovely (a beautiful) girl for a little while now. The other...

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Quick Hotwife Vent

Quick Hotwife Vent

I left my favorite sunglasses at a guy's place...they're probably still sitting there on his coffee table all these weeks later. Unfortunately it's not worth even trying to get the back from him since 1. I didn't have the best time and 2. He lives a few hours away and...

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What do Hotwives look for in a bull?

What do Hotwives look for in a bull?

I want someone who understands and appreciates this kink enough to know that they are an addition to an already amazing sex life. Being respectful of my marriage and my time goes a long way. I love the back and forth of getting to know someone but there’s a fine line...

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Re-evaluating my age guidelines…

Re-evaluating my age guidelines…

  I'm currently re-evaluating my self-imposed age guidelines and I'd like to hear how everyone else comes up with their numbers. I’m 30 (hubby is 33) and currently my rules is to only meet with guys who are between 26 and 39. There’s no real solid reason why I go...

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Sometimes it’s those little moments….

Sometimes it’s those little moments….

Sometimes they’re fleeting and sometimes they linger…they’re just as intoxicating in the moment as they are in memory. As a hotwife couple we get to experience something behind closed doors that most people don’t ever get to and I couldn't be more grateful for that....

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Do things escalate…or is it just me?

Do things escalate…or is it just me?

Could it be that the novelty of ‘just’ hotwifing wears off so it only makes sense to let the fantasy escalate to another level and try new things, new people, and new acts? We've been doing this hotwife thing for a few months now and we’re thoroughly enjoying...

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Before you send me a message read this

Before you send me a message read this

It appears that quite a few of you have similar questions and requests that have kind of taken over my inbox. As much as I'd like to respond to each of them and meet all of you that's just not going to happen....so here's a rundown of our deal with this hotwife kink...

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