Hotwife Media Review

In the spirit of community and shared discovery I’ve compiled a list of some of the hotwife related media that’s floating around.  Obviously the hotwife thing isn’t exactly widely known and certainly not to the point that it's common in pop culture but...

An ideal start to hotwifing

An ideal start? Among the most frequently asked questions when it comes to experiencing the hotwife lifestyle are, how do we get started? Or how do we actually make this fantasy a reality? How do we know if we’re ready to make this happen for real? There’s...

Resources for hotwives interested in boudoir photography

Whether you’ve been a hotwife for years or it’s something you’re just considering, you’ve probably thought about doing a boudoir photoshoot at some point and time. In my early days posting on reddit someone sent me a message asking if I’d do a quick...

Vetting potential partners: Here’s how I do it

There’s no one way to vet guys, in my opinion. I don’t even do it the same way every time but I figured I’d try to throw together some of the things that come up when it comes to narrowing down potential partners.It all starts with an initial message....

Finding a Third (online)

When you first start figuring out how to make this fantasy a reality a (very) large part of the equation is who you feel comfortable involving in your kink. Obviously finding someone who you are compatible with is up to you but hopefully I can assist you...

“Catching feelings”

Emotions.  We all have them yet we seem to want to pretend they don’t exist when it comes to this lifestyle. It’s always fascinated me the lengths people will go to in order to avoid ‘catching feelings’ or having any emotions for the people they hookup...

Hotwife Lifestyle Starters Guide: From Reaction to Action. Step 0. Part 1

How do you go from the initial reaction to this lifestyle to actually partaking?Damned if I know. Kidding, I think I can kinda help here but my advice comes with a caveat, you won’t like it and it takes time, trust and a lot of self awareness.Typically I...

Hotwife FAQ

You have questions...I have answers! I get a lot of messages and a lot of questions, Here’s the most common and frequently asked. We came to hotwifing via swinging…well we weren’t actually swinging but we were talking about it as something that might be fun to try…one...
Hotwife FAQ

Hotwife FAQ

You have questions...I have answers! I get a lot of messages and a lot of questions, Here’s the most common and frequently asked. We came to hotwifing via swinging…well we weren’t actually swinging but we were talking about it as something that might be fun to try…one...

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Hotwife Terminology

Hotwife Terminology

Generally speaking, I'm not one for labels (or set standards) when it comes to fantasy and kink. In the case of the hotwife lifestyle and enjoying a non monogamous lifestyle there's so many labels, acronyms, etc that I thought it might be helpful to put together a...

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Questions for couples to ask each other

Questions for couples to ask each other

Here are some of the questions that we have asked of each other when we started out, to this day (almost 2 years later) we like to revisit them as a way to check in and see where we’re each at. Obviously you shouldn’t answer these here but I...

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Intention & Compromise

Intention & Compromise

In the year and half that we’ve been doing this we’ve encountered countless problems, issues and grievances, especially early on. It’s taken us a year and a half to get to the space we’re in now where things are consistently going really well and throughout that time...

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Husbands Guide To Encouraging Your Wife

Husbands Guide To Encouraging Your Wife

If you're soooo close to making this fantasy happen for you here's a few ideas that worked for me and made me feel more comfortable exploring this fantasy with my husband. In our case it was all in the details, the little things my husband did or said that made this...

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Bulls Guide To Sending Her Home Happy

Bulls Guide To Sending Her Home Happy

    Let's jump right into it. you found a hotwife, she wants to meet you, you want to make a good impression...here's a few things that might help.       Early On: Check in. After the fact. check in. Unless things went terribly bad and you've agreed to forget it ever...

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Learn From Our Mistakes: Flexibility is Necessary

Learn From Our Mistakes: Flexibility is Necessary

My husband was super disappointed the first time I didn’t bring home any pictures. I was super disappointed that he was upset. We realized that we needed way more flexibility to avoid being let down when things change (and they will change). His POV: I went on a date...

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Burdens of a Hotwife

Burdens of a Hotwife

There’s a good amount of information about the feelings, emotions and up and downs that husbands may potentially go through in regards to sharing their wife. I’ve read plenty about the potential for his jealousy, insecurity, etc and how to deal with it. There’s not...

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Responsibilities of the Third

Responsibilities of the Third

The key players in the hotwife kink….hotwife-hubby-third:  We each have our responsibilities to make this fantasy work. I’ve seen a lot of guys ask what makes them a bull, what do hotwives look for, how do you approach a couple, etc…  The thing is there’s no one clear...

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Couples Guide To: Rules & Boundaries

Couples Guide To: Rules & Boundaries

Whether you're just starting out or already deep into the hotwife kink determining your rules & boundaries is essential to making this fantasy work. The first thing you have to remember is that this is a couple’s kink and your marriage/relationship comes first....

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Hotwife Guide to: Safety

Hotwife Guide to: Safety

OK…safety for the ladies In a perfect world we’d all meet guys who are complete gentlemen and having nothing but the best of intentions. So far that’s the case with us and I’m confident the trend will continue. Hotwifing seems to be a somewhat small community (say as...

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Couples Guide To:  Hotwife Play Styles

Couples Guide To: Hotwife Play Styles

Let’s start with the most important thing first. When you're exploring your kinks and fantasies you should always do whatever you're comfortable with and turned on by as long as everyone involved is consenting, happy and on the same page as you, hotwifing is no...

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Couples How To: Incorporate the Fantasy at Home

Couples How To: Incorporate the Fantasy at Home

Before you jump right into your very own hotwife adventures it’s a good idea to test things out at home so you can evaluate how you feel when the fantasy leaves your mind and becomes something a little more real. If you or your spouse has this hotwife fantasy and...

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If you get bad JuJu…Cancel!

If you get bad JuJu…Cancel!

Every so often we come across a person, situation or offer that just rubs us the wrong way. I don't usually post about it because we just let it go and move on but since this isn't the usual catfish story I figured I'd share. We've been in touch with *Arnold (not his...

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