Non Monogamy Articles

Why Having A Lover Makes Me A Better Wife

My lover is a passionate and skilled lover who enjoys the sexual opportunities I offer without expecting any kind of serious commitment. He brings toe-curling excitement to my life and I get to turn around and bring that high-octane sexual energy back home to my...

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The 9 Biggest Myths About Open Marriage

Three years into my marriage my husband and I decided to try something new – opening our marriage. It wasn’t something I’d ever considered before. I grew up thinking that I would meet a man, fall madly in love, marry him and live happily and monogamously ever after....

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6 toxic relationship habits that people think are normal.

There’s no class in high school on how to not be a shitty boyfriend or girlfriend. Sure, they teach us the biology of sex, the legality of marriage, and maybe we read a few obscure love stories from the 19th century on how not to be. But when it comes down to actually...

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Nonmonogamy for Men: The Big Picture

This guide was originally put together as a handout for a class on nonmonogamy aimed at men. Before finishing it, I decided to switch to a “tips” format instead, so I am publishing the portion that was finished, which covers the high-level conceptual stuff but does...

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‘My Husband And I Have An Open Marriage’

I was 17 when my sexual education began. “You are responsible for your own orgasm,” my boyfriend told me. He was the guy I lost my virginity to, the guy I had my first orgasm with, and the guy whose words would one day become my mantra: I am responsible for my own...

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I went undercover on Ashley Madison to find out why women cheat

"Honey, I have to join Ashley Madison.” So began the pitch I gave my wife to let me join the marrieds-looking-for-affairs website, AshleyMadison.com. It would be part of my research into women who cheat, why infidelity is increasing, and what can be done to possibly...

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Open Relationships and the exclusivity slider

Comedienne Rosie Wilby tours a one-woman show titled, Is Monogamy Dead?As background research for the show, she conducted an anonymous online survey, “asking what behaviors would be considered infidelity. Seventy-three out of 100 respondents thought that falling in...

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New study: How many Americans want poly relationships?

How many polyfolks are there? News media always ask, and no one really knows. My indirect method suggests it's roughly 3 million Americans, regardless of whether they use the word "polyamory." This is fairly consistent with surveys that ask people if they are in...

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Why even happily married people have affairs

We would all like to believe that affairs are the refuge of the discontented, that only people in unhappy marriages cheat. But “happy,” it turns out, is not a sufficient antidote to affair. We may be in a golden age of marriage, when elites at least are more likely to...

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My sweet threesome

Meeting Jane and her boyfriend at this Liberty Village pub took bravery and open-mindedness I wasn’t even aware I possessed. I steadied myself in the entranceway, forcing myself to take slow, deep breaths. Adrenaline shakes aren’t a common occurrence for me before a...

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4 Lessons Even a Serial Monogamist Can Learn From Polyamory

I met Zach while I was on vacation in San Francisco. He was dating a woman who identified as polyamorous and was involved in more than one romantic relationship. I wasn't poly, but after a whirlwind weekend Ubering to his favorite haunts and flirting across black...

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Savage Love -Taking Advantage

I am wondering when the best time is to mention being in an open relationship to new girls. I'm a 27-year-old straight guy who's been in an open relationship for six years. I often seek out extracurricular activities, but I am unsure of how to bring up my situation...

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Are non-monogamous couples happier?

Bob Dylan had it right when he said "The times they are a changing." While a few decades ago the idea of a polyamorous relationship may have been largely unheard of, more Americans than ever are accepting of the practice (although a majority still oppose it)...

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3 Insights About Kinky and Nonmonogamous Sex

Kinky sex has been around for eons, since long before Richard von Krafft-Ebing popularized the terms “sadism” and “masochism” in 1886 with his seminal work, Psychopathia Sexualis. But for a long time, it hasn’t really been spoken about in polite company. Only...

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Is your DNA making you promiscuous?

Why redheads take longer than blondes to lose their virginity: Genes influence how promiscuous people are . Scientists claim they have found genes that show hair colour can affect how likely someone is to have sex. Natural redheads – both men and women - were more...

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